Adoptive parenting

Adoption: a tough question from my daughter

March 22, 2011

I’m interested in what parents and non-parents have to say and particularly what helpful advice adoptees may have to offer. What would/did you do? The conversation started when Tessa, 9, asked me (again) what bitch means and if it’s a bad word. We’ve had this talk before. I told her (again) that the dictionary meaning is [...]

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Ignorant questions & answers about open adoption, part 2

January 28, 2011

Earlier this month, Jessica from O Solo Mama asked seven questions about open adoption. Jessica is a mom via international adoption, and her wonderings have stirred many open adoption bloggers to respond insightfully. Seriously, click over and read some of the posts — they have helped me deepen my own understanding of open adoption. A [...]

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Because OSoloMama called me a Quaker

January 11, 2011

O Solo Mama says, I’m beginning to think of successful open adoptions as kind of like the Quakers—the word that came to me while I was drifting off to sleep. In the sense that Quakers are the people who acknowledge that keeping peace is neither simple nor easy but they do it anyway… Which I [...]

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What does “real” mean: adoption talk with my daughter

December 23, 2010

We were thrilled last summer to hear that my son’s birth mom had put us on her itinerary during her visit to Colorado.  Reed hadn’t had contact with her in nearly 4 years, and for the first time he would meet his half-siblings, ages 3 and 1. Reed showed no signs of either distress or [...]

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My son speaks adoption language at school

October 5, 2010

“Your mom doesn’t look like you at ALL,” said the second-grader to my son. From my perch on a chair much too small for my bottom, I looked at the girl’s desk to find out her name, written in teacher-tidy print. Joy. “That’s ’cause she aDOPTED me,” Reed told his classmate across the table. And [...]

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Open adoption parenting: what I hope my children say one day

June 1, 2010

Open adoption bloggers are meeting at the roundtable to ponder these questions: Imagine your child as an adult describing their open adoption experience. What do you hope they will be able to say about you? How did you view their other parents? In what ways did you support their relationship with them? June 1, 2031 [...]

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