Adoption

7 points about the birth mom conversations

October 26, 2011

Recently my son opened up to me asking questions about his birth mom and I responded as best I could. The first two posts in this series simply recounted the conversations. In this third and last post, I offer commentary about the dialog between my son and me and about the comments the posts generated. [...]

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Processing adoption: Conversation with my son, part 2

October 17, 2011

In part one, I told how my still-and-deep-water son was churning some adoption stuff, and how he trusted me to do it with him. I am honored. ~~~~~ Reed and I were running errands the next day. Tessa stayed home with Daddy to build the first fire of the season. Brrrr….it had gotten chilly! Bedtime [...]

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Book Tour: Found, a Memoir by Jennifer Lauck

October 13, 2011

November is National Adoption Awareness Month and is just a few weeks away. To mark it, I invite you to join me in reading a memoir written by an adult adoptee from the closed era. I selected the book Found because: knowing and understanding adoptee perspectives helps me to know and understand parts of my [...]

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My son processes a new layer of his adoptedness

October 10, 2011

Adam Pertman told the story (which I’m paraphrasing, perhaps badly) at last month’s Open Adoption Symposium of his teenage son, playing a handheld game in his room one night. Trying to keep the lines of communication open, Adam stepped into his son’s room and asked, “Son, how often do you think about adoption?” Without looking [...]

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Perfect Moment Monday: My StarCon experience

September 25, 2011

Now I know how Trekkies feel. Not during their “real” lives, but while at StarCon. I got to spend the weekend with one of my clans. A bunch of mostly strangers with a common experience and passion and language and pointy ears. Well, maybe not that last one, but a bunch of people who really [...]

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An open response to anti-open adoption sentiments, part 2

April 12, 2011

Posters on a private board for adoptive parents discussed their reasons for being against open adoption. In part 1 and here, I share my responses to them (background). ~~~~~~ Coercion I don’t understand how you believe that agencies coerce pre-adoptive parents into openness. Just because you don’t like the options available to you doesn’t mean [...]

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