Comments on: Open Adoption: Wish List

By: Furrow

Furrow — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:41:46 +0000

I’m going to totally gender stereotype and say that at least the situation is not reversed. Something tells me that a girl (maybe because of the whole mothering instinct thing) would be more hurt by a nonresponsive bm than a boy. I see this difference in my husband and SIL (both adopted). But still, I hope that Reed someday has the wonderful option that Tessa has.

By: Baby Smiling In Back Seat

Baby Smiling In Back Seat — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:41:46 +0000

“Reed will always feel loved by his birthfamily”

I wonder if you ever worry that Reed will think his birthparents stay away because they don’t love him, or worse, that maybe they really don’t love him? It’s easy to see how a child (or adult) would interpret absence as lack of love. It’s especially ironic and sad because he’s an amazingly lovable kid, and anyone who got to know him would love him whole-heartedly.

By: Sheri

Sheri — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:41:45 +0000

This is a great list. I hope you your wishes come true!

You are providing a great look at what Open Adoption is and what it can be. In many ways you are a pioneer of this type of adoption.

Thank you for sharing your experiences so openly and honestly. It is a gift to so many…

By: luna

luna — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:41:45 +0000

wonderful wishes, all. xo.

By: Sunny

Sunny — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:41:44 +0000

I second what Kymberli said! I just soak up what you say, I have learned a lot. In fact, I was mentioning your blog to a friend of mine today. She was told she would never have children by 4 docs, then she found out she was pregnant 2 weeks before her hysterectomy for debilitating endo! She has a gorgeous son and had the hysterectomy when he was a few months old. She wants to continue to add to her family, and I suggested she check you out!

By: Kymberli

Kymberli — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:41:43 +0000

Beautiful list, Lori. I learn so much about adoption in general and the intricacies of open adoption specifically through your candor. I’m learning so much, and for that I am grateful!