Comments on: About face

By: Shanell

Shanell — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 12:44:38 +0000

I’ve done this my entire life. My biological brother and I look nothing alike. Our mother is fair skin and our father is dark skin. I came out looking exactly like our mom and he exactly like our dad. I’ve always been so proud to have him as my brother but it always seems like I have to justify why we look so different.
Interesting things I was told a while ago…the things about ourselves we are the most self-conscious of, or would like to change, are the things we notice first about others. For instance, I’m in a wheelchair, when I was younger I walked very awardly. Now, I study the way other people walk. I’ve always hated my nose, it’s the first thing I look at.
Going through the adoption process myself, I have “noticed” more adoptive families. I feel like I get excited when I see multi-racial families because I imagine that could be ours someday.

By: @jencull (Jen)

@jencull (Jen) — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 22:14:32 +0000

I do, I tend to look for overall resemblance though rather than distinct features. If I don’t see the overall thing then I go into features! That is an intruiging photo though! Jen (Blog Gems)

By: HereWeGoAJen

HereWeGoAJen — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 00:19:31 +0000

And I am just the opposite of most people here. Unless there is something blatantly obvious, I don’t look at resemblance at all. In fact, when I try to match up features, I almost can’t. People ask me who my daughter looks like, me or my husband, and Matt and I almost always say “she looks like herself!”

By: Cass@frugalfamily

Cass@frugalfamily — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 11:49:24 +0000

Just popped over from Blog Gems – I always look at faces, I like to look at siblings and see which features they have that are alike and which are completely different.

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By: petunia

petunia — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:35:52 +0000

A friend from my IF group had an egg donor that was a friend. She gave birth to twins and she works with the egg donor and sees her every day….she gets to hare about the kids all the time. the kids look more like my friend than the donor – weird.

By: Kami

Kami — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:35:51 +0000

Petunia – nice image.Well, I have started studying faces . . . mostly because of this post and I am amazed at how different some children look from their parents. Interesting hobby.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:30:07 +0000

Thanks for pointing me here. Fascinating on a bunch of levels. I don’t know much about Joan beyond the obvious (writer, mover and shaker). This post gave me new food for thought. Somehow I feel more respect for Joan knowing that she adopted. I’m guessing she wasn’t able to conceive? It warmed my heart in a weird sort of way that I didn’t know the child referred to in all of the marketing promos was adopted. I like to think that people don’t differentiate between biological or adopted children when they discuss their children’s importance in their lives. I guess what I’m saying is that I like that I didn’t have any idea whether her daughter was biologically conceived or adopted…

By: Furrow

Furrow — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 21:25:55 +0000

My husband, who is adopted, looks so much like his father that people who don’t know about the adoption always commment on how much they look alike. There must be something that takes place as people live together. We can’t find any similarity between him and his biological mother, whose picture he has seen.